Themed retreats


2017 Programme

Finding Forgiveness

Monday 13th March 2017 to Wednesday 15th March 2017

Led by Dr. Stephanie Thornton C.Psychol, AFBPsS

Forgivness Picture

Why is it so hard to forgive – or to feel forgiven? Forgiveness is recognised by psychologists as a key element in emotional healing and is a cornerstone of our Christian practice.  And yet many people struggle to let go of grievances, or to feel the mercy of God’s forgiveness. This retreat explores the psychological processes involved in forgiveness – which are rather different from what many suppose. Forgiveness needs much more than the will to forgive: like grief, it’s a multi-stage process, and each stage needs something different if it is to give way to progress to the next. The retreat explores the stages of forgiveness, and how a better understanding of those processes can help us to focus our efforts to forgive more effectively – both for ourselves, and for those we help. A core conclusion is that, fully embraced, the natural psychological processes of forgiveness lead us not just to forgive X for doing Y, but to become people who live in forgiveness.

Stephanie is a developmental psychologist and a retired academic. Whilst writing a         textbook for first year undergraduates, she became convinced that human psychological processes are in fact built to foster our spiritual development, but that we generally fail to use those gifts because we don’t understand how they work, and worse, have all sorts of false conceptions that undermine our efforts to grow.

£185.00 Residential / £98.00 Non-Residential

Easter Triduum

Thursday 13th April 2017 – Sunday 16th April 2017

Easter is a wonderful time for reflection and renewal. Come away to celebrate the liturgies of Holy Week within the beautiful surroundings of St. Cuthman’s.

There will be time for silence and reflection as well as sharing and celebration.


£260.00 Residential

Creating Community 

Monday 1st May 2017 – Wednesday 3rd May 2017

Led by Dr. Stephanie Thornton C.Psychol, AFBPsS

Jesus calls us to live together, not just in harmony but in true Christian fellowship, where

Jesus calls us to live together, not just in harmony but in true Christian fellowship, where everyone is included, respected, everyone matters, everyone is nurtured. It’s part of our witness, our discipleship: to love our neighbours as ourselves. But all too often, we fail – in our work places, our parishes even our families…

Why is it so hard to create the community Christ calls us to? This retreat explores the dynamic processes through which groups, communities and social connections are formed, and the psycho-social processes that so easily derail our efforts to create true community, whether in our homes, our parishes our workplaces – or our towns and streets. A core conclusion is that the more we understand those dynamic processes, the more able we are to steer them, and our own psychology, in constructive ways. One individual can have more impact – for good or ill – than you may suppose!

£185.00 Residential / £98.00 Non-Residential

Creating Community (May 2015)

Apple Picking Day

Saturday 16th September 2017 from 10:00 – 16:00

Bring the family and enjoy a day helping us to pick and press apples in our Edwardian Orchard.  There will be worship, workshops and music.  The day is free; donations are welcome.  Tea and cake will be served to our volunteers.  Please feel free to bring lunch to share.


Please call to book your space on 01403 741220

Listening with the Ear of the Heart – A Residential Retreat Led by Bishop Richard Moth, Bishop of Arundel and Brighton

2pm on Monday 18th September 2017 to 2pm on Tuesday 19th September 2017

This retreat will focus on teaching and practical experience of Lectio Divina

Bishop Richard Moth

£110.00 Residential

Human Development a Spiritual Journey

2pm on Monday 2nd October 2017 to 2pm on Wednesday 4th October 2017

Led by Dr. Stephanie Thornton C.Psychol, AFBPsS

A second chance to explore the processes through which we become who we are now – and the processes through which enormous change and development are possible right through adult life. It explores the processes that hold us back from that potential growth, and how they can be overcome, so that we can take control and steer our development. A core conclusion is that few of us have come anywhere near realising our full potential for human development – and that, when you understand the nature of that potential, it becomes clear that the human journey of full development has a spiritual destination. As well as providing ‘the owner’s manual’ for understanding our humanity better, the material also offers a toolbox from CBT (cognitive behavioural therapy) for managing personal growth better. “Anything is possible!”

Human Development and Spiritual Development Picture

£185.00 Residential / £98.00 Non-Residential

The Spiritual Gifts of Ageing

Tuesday 7th November 2017 – Thursday 9th November 2017

Led by Dr. Stephanie Thornton C.Psychol, AFBPsS

The actress Bette Davis famously said – ageing is not for sissies! But what is it for ?

It’s so easy to see growing older as simply a succession of losses: of the looks and strength of our youth; of the careers, roles, status that have defined our adult identities; of fitness, health, memory…. a period of decay and decline.  But this is a mistake! In fact, what we lose as we age are only the material things that so easily dominate busy lives.  Psychological research identifies these losses as necessary, if we are to move from a focus on the material to the spiritual: things we must let go if we are to complete the human development journey into the peace and joy, the serenity that is spiritual fulfilment.

This retreat explores the way in which ageing invites us to re-align from the material to the spiritual, and the ways in which human psychology can support that journey.  And in the process, ageing is revealed as one of God’s most wonderful gifts – if only we embrace it!

£185.00 Residential / £98.00 Non-Residential

St. Cuthman’s Christmas Retreat

Sunday 24th December 2017 – Wednesday 27th December 2017

Led by St. Cuthman’s


There will be time for silence and reflection on the Mysteries of God’s Birth as well as sharing in the joy of the season within our beautiful historic house

£299.50 Residential